There isn't really a short simple title that says....
I'm a Stay at home mom SAHM
We travel full time by RV (most of the year, hibernate in winter)
I home school twin boys.
I am a stay-at-home, disabled, full-time traveling, twin boy road-schooling mom. I wonder if that would fit on a business card.
I used to say "I'm an accountant". Life can throw a nasty curve ball called "I bet you thought everything was going great. Now watch this". Enter severely bad health and multiple surgeries along with a lot of DV.
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The Spoon Theoryhttps://butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/
The idea behind this is that you have so many spoons for the day or week. These spoons are your energy. Some days it takes all my spoons to get out of bed. Other days I hope to still have a spoon left for sex. If my husband helps with things during the day, which he does if he can, I have spoons left for that night.
Sometimes I start the day with negative spoons, which means I can't do anything and just hope that tomorrow I wake up with one.
There are 168 hours in a weekI'm going to average this since there are many things that only happen once a week, or once a month.
Sleeping = 42 hours (if I'm lucky) If I slept 8 hours a night, I would have zero time left after everything else. The less hours of sleep I get, the less spoons I wake up with. The more sleep I get, the more spoons I have, but the less time I have to do anything.
This, is the chronic pain conundrum.
This, is the chronic pain conundrum.
Teaching home school = 25 hours (not including PE, arts n crafts, science experiments, museums, field trips, etc AND cleaning it up.
Preparing/cooking and serving 3 meals a day = 7-10 hours (sometimes we eat out, or hub helps)
Dishes/scrubbing/sweeping/mopping and general cleaning = 10 hours weekly average at least
Laundry/grocery shopping/errands = 10 hours easy
Traveling assistant; making 20 phone calls to campgrounds, Rv parks, motels/hotels, any place to stay, car or truck rental, mapping the route, or co-pilot, assistanting in all aspects of traveling, mapping every location along the way and places we'll need once there, finding gas stations, places to eat, laundromats, checking prices, numerous online searches, research, contracts, hiring, etc (since this doesn't happen every week, I'll say the average is) 5-10 hours
Doctor appts = 1 hour average (unless I have to drive or fly from our job site, then its several hours, if not a day or two)
Bathing/primping/manicuring = 5 hours
Traveling is not every week, but on average, driving time is = 5-10 (average a few days a month)
Referring, playing with and entertaining fighting twins, taking care of pets = 10 hours
Due to chronic pain, it takes at least an hour every morning to get out of bed, take my pills, drink coffee, and pray for a good day = 10 hours, at least. If not at least an hour, I'll start throwing those 'spoons'.
Making necessary phone calls, paying bills, helping everyone do everything else = 2 hours
So apparently I have a few hours a day to myself where much needed rest and recouperation is greatly needed. And in that space, we try to have quality time for us.
Mind you, I am mentally (Ptsd and anxiety) and physically disabled (endo, fibro, mctd) for life, have a permanently dislocated unusable shoulder (that needs a state of the art surgery), suffer from severe chronic pain and migraines, and can not function normally on a daily basis.
It's still not always good enough. If I'm not on top of things daily, I appear lazy.
When full blown fibro flares kick in, I am down for days at a time. Whatever my man can't help with, since he works, is all still waiting for me when I'm better. I don't have a team of helpers to do my job for me when I can't.
I just hope it's good enough.
Doubt my comment got through before. Thanks for sharing your medical issues. Mine are similar and I've been dealing with various treatments (and scaling back on meds whenever I can). Fibro, migraines, arthritis, now tachycardia, blah, blah, blah. The spoons analogy is right on. Thank you for the honesty.ReplyDelete
Thank you for that. The painful days are winning at the moment. I'm on a prepaid plan for 2021 spoons apparently. Nerve pain is a fun spin-the-wheel of "If (body part) hurts, it will cause a reaction in (random body part you didn't think was connected)."Delete