Friday, April 7, 2017

When there aren't enough spoons


There isn't really a short simple title that says....

I'm a Stay at home mom SAHM
I'm Disabled
We travel full time by RV (most of the year, hibernate in winter)
I home school twin boys.

I am a stay-at-home, disabled, full-time traveling, twin boy road-schooling mom. I wonder if that would fit on a business card.

I used to say "I'm an accountant". Life can throw a nasty curve ball called "I bet you thought everything was going great. Now watch this". Enter severely bad health and multiple surgeries along with a lot of DV.
(This is a good site. If you are NOT SAFE AND IN FEAR, PLEASE GO TO THIS WEBSITE AND LEAVE QUICKLY http://domesticviolence.org/)


The Spoon Theory
 https://butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/

The idea behind this is that you have so many spoons for the day or week. These spoons are your energy. Some days it takes all my spoons to get out of bed. Other days I hope to still have a spoon left for sex. If my husband helps with things during the day, which he does if he can, I have spoons left for that night.
Sometimes I start the day with negative spoons, which means I can't do anything and just hope that tomorrow I wake up with one.


There are 168 hours in a week 
I'm going to average this since there are many things that only happen once a week, or once a month.

Average week: 
Sleeping = 42 hours (if I'm lucky) If I slept 8 hours a night, I would have zero time left after everything else. The less hours of sleep I get, the less spoons I wake up with. The more sleep I get, the more spoons I have, but the less time I have to do anything.
This, is the chronic pain conundrum.

Teaching home school = 25 hours (not including PE, arts n crafts, science experiments, museums, field trips, etc AND cleaning it up. 

Preparing/cooking and serving 3 meals a day = 7-10 hours (sometimes we eat out, or hub helps)

Dishes/scrubbing/sweeping/mopping and general cleaning = 10 hours weekly average at least

Laundry/grocery shopping/errands = 10 hours easy 

Traveling assistant; making 20 phone calls to campgrounds, Rv parks, motels/hotels, any place to stay, car or truck rental, mapping the route, or co-pilot, assistanting in all aspects of traveling, mapping every location along the way and places we'll need once there, finding gas stations, places to eat, laundromats, checking prices, numerous online searches, research, contracts, hiring, etc (since this doesn't happen every week, I'll say the average is) 5-10 hours 

Doctor appts = 1 hour average (unless I have to drive or fly from our job site, then its several hours, if not a day or two)

Bathing/primping/manicuring = 5 hours 

Traveling is not every week, but on average, driving time is = 5-10 (average a few days a month)

Referring, playing with and entertaining fighting twins, taking care of pets = 10 hours 

Due to chronic pain, it takes at least an hour every morning to get out of bed, take my pills, drink coffee, and pray for a good day = 10 hours, at least. If not at least an hour, I'll start throwing those 'spoons'.
 
Making necessary phone calls, paying bills, helping everyone do everything else = 2 hours 

So apparently I have a few hours a day to myself where much needed rest and recouperation is greatly needed. And in that space, we try to have quality time for us. 

Mind you, I am mentally (Ptsd and anxiety) and physically disabled (endo, fibro, mctd) for life, have a permanently dislocated unusable shoulder (that needs a state of the art surgery), suffer from severe chronic pain and migraines, and can not function normally on a daily basis.
 
It's still not always good enough. If I'm not on top of things daily, I appear lazy. 


When full blown fibro flares kick in, I am down for days at a time. Whatever my man can't help with, since he works, is all still waiting for me when I'm better. I don't have a team of helpers to do my job for me when I can't.

I just hope it's good enough.
 

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

Sherri Papini - The Saga of Pictures


SHERRI PAPINI
THE SAGA OF PICTURES
I traveled to Redding for work and got a few pictures. 



The possible 'abduction' site. Corner of Sunrise Drive and Old Oregon Trail Road




BEST BUY STORE
 NEAR FREEWAY

The Best Buy store is in a shopping area with many businesses, restaurants, salons, clothing stores and a mall nearby. It is not far from the freeway.
View from the curb at corner of street
In a shopping plaza. There are several large businesses in the area.



AT&T Store across the street from Best Buy and next door to the mall
I'm not sure if this is the exact store he went to, but this AT&T store is directly across the street from Best Buy. 


Behind and next to the AT&T store is more shopping plazas.
 


 THE MALL 
 The Childrens Store next to Beauty by Thread
 The mall is a nice sized place, not too big, not too small. Mostly one story and a nice vibe. I got my eyebrows done. I'll go back to waxing. (Sorry some pictures are blurry)
 Fortunately, it doesn't seem to be suffering from multiple store closures inside like many other malls. You have to walk past the waiting area to sign in at the desk of the eyebrow store. 




I'm a Coffeeholic. I forgot why I was here.
Mmmmmmmm
Cooooffffeeeeee
 
The angle of eyebrow store is odd.



Bethel Mega Church

Bethel is massive. It has a ginormous parking lot, with areas to sit, walk, or ponder. Multiple flags and a gigantic cross adorn the drive up the hill to it. There is a small water feature and a lot of grassy areas. It's a very large building with additional structures.
This is the left side of the driveway up. There is a waterfall feature here.
On left coming up. Sanctuary type place.
This is the right side of drive up. Many flag poles and a large cross.
Front of the main building. There were other structures that I didn't want to bother the Security with questions about. :)

On right coming up, next to cross.


BETHEL

Lots of parking. At least 2x the size of a
Super Walmart parking lot.





The Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's Witnesses in Woodland.
The Kingdom Hall is extremely close to the freeway. I'm talking maybe 150 feet to the entrance and exit. It's RIGHT there. Literally a wall/grass separates. There is a razor wire fence across the street alongside the exit ramp, that seems to have trucks, parts, or other types of things for manufacturing or orchard equipment locked up behind the fence.

The houses down the street to the east across railroad tracks are merely a 100 yards away, but could possibly have not looked inviting on Thanksgiving Morning at 4 am, when I bet some people are up about to cook a turkey. There was about a half dozen little homes. There is nothing else around. They looked like normal country houses to me. Also, the sign stating that cameras are in use at the KH may not have been there that day.

The way to the freeway is through some grass, bushes and trees, but the KH is very close to it and the angles on the camera would have picked up anyone coming near. The cameras very well could have picked up all vehicles entering and exiting the freeway quite easily since it's right next to it.
Gated parking lot with sign warning Camera's in Use. Facing W.
Over that fence and grass is the highway.
Facing S from KH. Truck yard.


Facing SE towards houses down street
Facing NE. Main entrance on other street.



Facing N. This is KH. Freeway to my left.
Back door of KH blocked by palm tree.



The KH is directly to my right.
At KH curb facing SW to exit ramp.


At KH curb facing SSE. That's all there is to see here.


Exit ramp. I-5 in distance. Likely where she was let go.
Exit ramp. KH in distance. Standing where likely let go.


Same view from exit ramp but further back.


Same houses down the street. 
The other side of overpass. Nothing


The other side of the overpass facing E towards I-5. Nothing much but orchards.
KH would be to the left of picture on other side of freeway.




Old Oregon Trail Road

This was a very pleasant drive. I got no weird vibe or kidnap feel at all. It was very quaint and quiet with nice looking country homes. This didn't seem like the druggie tweeker part of town. I would go jogging in that area in a heartbeat, and husband agreed. The Shasta community college was near and there didn't seem to be a large amount of ill kept yards, cars, plants or property.
I really didn't see a lot of trashy places at all. It was beautiful. Not the poor meth area that people are describing. Yes, Redding has it, but this area looked more like old money. Large manicured property.



A Kingdom Hall a few miles from her house on OTR.
A few miles before Sunrise Dr.






More Oregon Trail road.


Some folks have a great view.



Just random sprawling lovely homes.


A few miles each way, OTR winds around from the highway.
There are 2 ways at least to their house, the freeway, or scenic way.







Oregon Trail Road where it meets Sunrise Drive to the left. The possible abduction site.








SUNRISE DRIVE

I must have missed the part where everyone said this was a gravel road. It's a gravel road.
A few flat sections, but it's gravel and dirt, and you HAVE to pass the mail boxes to pull in, if you're coming in this way, so if he didn't see her when he pulled in, I don't know what would make him go back there to look for her. Its possible that he took an alternate route in.
Other than the Find My Wife tracker app, I wouldn't have thought to drive her car back/to to the mail box, but that had to be the reason. It's a few country roads in, based on what direction you're traveling from and several gravel roads back to their house along with several other houses and other gravel driveways in and out everywhere back there.
The case has said where the phone was found, so that's the area I focused on. There were many homes in the mile from the road to their house, and in not wanting to get arrested for trespassing, I didn't drive up to their door :)

There are several double wide mobile and manufactured homes. I barely saw any stick built, other than the nice one for sale. I wonder how long it's been on the market. I didn't even see any house that would have been described as 'tweeker', even houses off a main road, off a back road, off a gravel road...still didn't look that trashy.

Not a kidnappy unsafe area. No seedy random back road that presumed female Middle Americans went speeding away on with a screaming white girl in the back. Nothing about that area said 'random'. If you plug in the opposite of that, in case you're trying to throw everyone off, you get one rich white guy in a BMW. The fact that Cameron Gamble said that it looked dangerous and he would never let his wife go jogging in that area is laughable.

It looked so quiet and boring that one would probably make up things to do.


The following are several shots taken from a moving vehicle on a bumpy road. It is what it is. There wasn't tons to see through the trees either.











The Mailboxes at the entrance to Sunrise Drive are on the left. Here, we are leaving, so on right.


On Sunrise Drive facing Old Oregon Trail Road.


Bad view of Sunrise Drive entrance. OTR in background.




View of grassy area behind mailboxes. OTR in background.


On Sunrise Drive as if leaving, coming up on mailboxes and covered area.


Beginning of mailbox area on Sunrise Drive going towards OTR.




Mail box area on Sunrise Drive. Not sure how easy to find a phone here.




















Right past the mailboxes before you get to Oregon Trail Road


Corner of Sunrise Drive and Old Oregon Trail Road. Possible 'abduction' site.



Leaving Sunrise Drive. View to left










SIMPSON UNIVERSITY



Sticker on car


Headed towards the University. Bethel is back the opposite way.


Main entrance to Simpson University





Main entrance



A few random school buildings.




This is in a large grassy area at the end of the main entrance. There are several acres of lush grounds complete with duck ponds and walkways.

RANDOM PICTURES OF REDDING


Road Trip

On our way to Redding. This is the small airport.

The TA truck stop that Christine Everson said she saw a women resembling Sherri Papini.

DELETED PICTURES FROM HER PHOTOBUCKET AND ONLINE ACCOUNTS
I DO NOT KNOW NAMES OR STORIES OF ANYONE HERE.







 











I AM TRYING TO LOCATE A WOMAN THAT IS PICTURED NEXT TO HER IN A HOSPITAL BED.  STORY BEHIND PICTURE IS HERE

I HAVE MORE PICTURES, BUT THEY AREN'T THAT GOOD, AND THERE'S TOO MUCH OF MY KIDS RUNNING AROUND IN THEM :D
THIS WAS A WORK TRIP, AND I WAS NOT ABLE TO SCOUT AROUND AS MUCH AS I HAD LIKED.

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